Top 15 Push Presents! What to get your partner after she births your child!!
- Erin
- Feb 6, 2018
- 8 min read
Ok, so you clicked on this post because you have heard of this concept of a "Push Present". But WHAT IS A PUSH PRESENT?
This is the same question my husband asked me when I mentioned it before our first child was born. He was CONVINCED that it was something I made up. Another reason to receive a gift from him. He thought FOR SURE it was something made up by the jewelry companies in order to separate him from more of his money. Wasn't an engagement ring, wedding band, jewelry for anniversaries and birthdays enough? NOPE. There is such a thing as a push present.
Lets start here. Your partner gets pregnant. She is now looking at the next nine months as a blessing. A time to grow another human being that will bless this earth and your family. She is excited, but it soon is realized what a sacrifice this is. Think about it guys!! No drinking for 9 months (more if she has been on fertility treatments or plans on breast feeding), no more deli meats and soft cheeses, No more lifting heavy objects (ok, maybe this one is a perk of pregnancy;-) She has to watch what she eats, watch what she does, always mindful of what could harm her or the unborn miracle she is carrying. Her belly grows, sure this is something we all know will happen. But what they don't tell you is everything ELSE that will grow....your boobs, your hands, your feet and yes, even your NOSE. Seriously, did you know your nose could grow?
The third trimester hits, and all has been well till now. However, now the tough part comes. She can't sleep, heartburn may increase, it gets harder to walk...heck, it gets harder to MOVE. Nothing fits, everything is swollen, and she is counting down the days she can hold her baby, and get her body back for herself.
Now, as if all of THIS isn't reason enough for a present, then comes the birth!
Have you ever tried to push a watermelon through an orange sized hole? Of course you haven't....but she is about to. Contraction pains would be more than enough to cause a man to pass out. But she breathes through them. The end goal keeps her strong through the process. Even though an epidural will give relief to some, the needle the size of a telephone pole going into your spine is painful.....but she grips your hand and holds as still as possible while not complaining....because the baby will be here soon! For some, this magical medicine gives some relief, but others are not so luck. Some women will still feel EVERY LITTLE BIT OF PAIN. There are also super women out there who forgo the epidural, and THESE women AMAZE me.
Then comes the ring of fire, the pressure and pain of the baby crowning and coming out, and then for MANY unfortunate women, the rip that happens when the orange sized hole was just not big enough.....
Some women have to go through all of labor just to end it with having their abdomen cut open and the baby being brought into the word via c-section.
At this point you should truly be in awe of a woman's body.
So what can you get her that shows your gratitude and amazement? Lets give you a list of ideas to choose from:-)
1. Jewelry
This is a given. I feel like jewelry is the ultimate gift. The bigger the diamond the better right? LOL Gorgeous diamond earrings, a ring to commemorate this momentous occasion, another wedding band to stack on top of your current engagement ring and wedding band, the ideas are endless. A great way to distinguish this piece of jewelry is to use the birthstone of your newborn child as an accent or the main focus.
This is an easy find. "He went to Jared" or "Every Kiss begins with K" sound familiar. Visit your local large jewelry store, or go small and research local jewelry stores:-)
2. Personalized jewelry
Want to get a little more personal with your jewelry selections? Choose a piece that every time she looks at it, she will think of her child. Initials, birthstones, and names can be put on personalized jewelry pieces.
This etsy shop, Shay Designs, makes BEAUTIFUL custom stamped jewelry. Her website is here:
3. Cleaning Service
OK. Lets get real here. There are tons of physical gift ideas out there. But some gifts don't need to be wrapped in a tiny velvet box. Some gifts are priceless. Like a clean house! As a new mom, she will want to snuggle, nurse, and relax with her newborn baby...and let's face it, so will you:-) So gift her with a cleaning service. You could do as little as 1 cleaning session to take place while she is int he hospital recovering, so she comes home to a clean house, OR better yet, sign up for one or two cleaning sessions a month! That way you can both focus on the important things.
When finding a cleaning service, there are TONS online, but it is best to ask your friends. These people will be in your house all in your personal business. They will need to be trusted.
4. Photos
What better way to commemorate this special time in your life than capturing it?!? You can schedule a birth photographer to come in and capture the moments while you focus on supporting your partner, and forget about the cell phone. You could also schedule a newborn photographer to capture your first photos as a family. Lord knows that getting in front of the camera is the last thing you may want to do after very little sleep, but a good photographer will make you and your wife feel beautiful no matter what, and you will thank me when the baby is a year old, and you start to forget how TINY they were when you first brought them home.
I HIGHLY suggest Irish Eyes Photography in Columbus, Ohio.....BUT if this is too far to drive, research your local newborn photographer, and try to book a few months in advance.
5. Spa Day
A gift certificate to a spa day would be wonderful to pamper your new mom. When there are DAYS that go by without showers, and makeup and hair styling are the last on their list of things to do, she will appreciate a day of beauty and pampering. So get a gift certificate, and offer to stay with the baby while she goes and feels like a woman again:-) Charles Penzone and Massage Envy are just a few places I know that offer full spa day packages.
6. Flowers
Flowers are always a nice gesture. Roses, Daisies, even a live plant that can be planted in the garden and grow with the child. They are all wonderful choices. Did you know each month has a designated flower? Do your research HERE and send a custom bouquet with your new baby's flower.
7. Love/Thank you letter
All of these gifts so far require money to buy. But what if you are low on funds? I will tell you the one thing that will make your woman SWOON and fall completely in love with you all over again. Want to impress her and bring her to MANY post partum tears? Write her a letter. A love note. Tell her how amazing she is for carrying and birthing your new baby. Tell her how in love with her you were, and how you never knew you could love her more till now. I promise you, she won't even care that it didn't cost a dime. Make it even more special by hand writing it. In this day of digital technology, a hand written letter goes A LONG WAY. I bet she will keep it forever!
8. Shopping Spree
Her body will change. Pregnancy changes everything. Some women will bounce right back to their pre-pregnancy bodies, and others it will take a little bit of time. But the last thing any woman wants to do is continue to wear maternity clothes after the baby is born. A gift certificate to her favorite clothing place would be nice to allow her to replace some staple items in her wardrobe and make her feel comfortable in her new post-baby body.
9. Night Nurse
That's right. Did you know there was such a thing? You can lie and say it is a present for her, but in reality, it is TRULY a present for your both. There are night nurses/doulas that for a small fee will come to your house at night and take the night feedings for the baby. Yes, this means she will be in your home over night, BUT this also means you get to SLEEP!
We have an AMAZING organization here in Columbus, Ohio called Columbus Birth and Parenting. They offer all kinds of prenatal and post-partum services including night nurses.
If you are not from the Columbus area, I am sure if you reach out to CB&P, they will point you in the right direction of someone more local to you:-)
Check out their website: http://www.columbusbirth.com/
or facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ColumbusBirthandParenting
10. A Night Out
This can be with you, or with her girl friends. Being a new mom takes a lot of attention away from the things and people that used to be a big part of her life. She will appreciate getting to have a date night with you, or even a night out with the girls. Set up child care, make reservations, and maybe even contact Uber or Lyft so she can go out and have a few drinks.
11. Vacation
Now, not all moms will want to be away from their babies for an extended period of time, so maybe use this as an I Owe You. You can promise a weekend trip or a week long trip to relax, get pampered and enjoy some time as a couple. It could even just be a couple nights in a hotel in the nearest city so she isn't too far away from the baby if something is needed.
12. Car
New baby equals new stroller, car seat, bags, etc. If you want to impress her, go car shopping to replace her sporty car with a new mini van, SUV, or crossover. She may be hesitant at first, but she will thank you when she has to pack the whole house to go on a play date:-)
13. Carrier
Strollers are typically on the registry, but sometimes the baby carrier is over looked. Even if you have one from your baby shower, you can never have enough carriers around. There are tons of options out there, but my favorite is Tula. They have carriers that grow with the baby, ring slings, and even nice blankets to match. Get one for her car and for the house. She will thank you when she is trying to get work done and the baby doesn't want to be put down.
14. Food Service
Mm will be so busy tracking when baby eats, when baby sleeps, how many diapers, etc, that she may forget to cook or even eat. Signing up for a food service subscription would be a life saver; Hello Fresh, Blue Apron, and Plated are just a few options to check out. It will not only deliver the food, but the recipes too, taking all the guess work out of it. Bonus points if YOU cook the meals, and if you don't cook, here is my ordering TIP: order the meals that take less than 60 mins to prep and cook.
15. Personalized Decorations
Pillows, signs, jewelry boxes, mugs, tshirts, blankets, you name it, you can find it personalized!! Anything with your baby's name, birthday, weight, height, etc on it will make her tear up. Etsy.com is a great place to find these types of gifts!!!
Willow creek company is just one of many, and their personalized pillows and signs are just AMAZING.
That's it. I am out of ideas:-) If this list doesn't give you a good idea for a push present, I give up. LOL. Please comment with what you got your partner, or ladies, what was the best push present you have received?
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